home funerals

 A home funeral is a family or community-centered response to death and after-death care. Most state laws support the right of the family to care for their own departed. 

During a home funeral the family remains in charge from the moment of death until burial or cremation.  A family can take as much time as they need to personally care for their loved one according to religious or cultural beliefs and traditions and the body can be viewed without being embalmed.

A home funeral fosters the spirit of community as friends and neighbors gather to support the family in their home. Family and friends have more time with the body helping them accept and integrate the death and promoting the healing process. Children’s fears are allayed when witnessing the rites and rituals of caring for the dead at home by family members and they are able to more easily integrate death into the cycle of life.

The cost of a home funeral is considerably less than traditional funeral homes. When hiring a Home Funeral Guide you pay consultation fees for education and guidance and save the cost of refrigeration, embalming, mortician fees and parlor and chapel rentals.

Depending on the specifics of each state’s law, families and communities may play a key role in:

• Preparing the body for burial or cremation (Bathing, dressing, anointing)

• Planning and carrying out after-death rituals or ceremonies such as laying out the deceased for visitation and holding a funeral service in the home

• Filing of death-related paperwork such as the death certificate and disposition permit.

• Transporting the deceased to the place of burial or cremation

• Facilitating the final disposition such as digging the grave in natural burial

For more information on the home funeral movement, please visit: www.homefuneralalliance.org

FUNERAL DIRECTOR

You do not have to hire a funeral director. In almost all states you have the legal right to act as the funeral director on behalf of your loved one which includes the responsibility of completing and filing the necessary paperwork. EXCEPT IN Alabama, Connecticut, Illinois, Iowa, Indiana, Louisiana, Michigan, Nebraska, New Jersey and New York have various restrictions concerning a family’s right to after-death care, home funerals and burials.

For more information on legal rights for your state, please visit the Funeral Consumers Alliance at:  www.funerals.org

TRANSPORTING BODY

Yes. In almost all 50 states, families have the legal right to care for loved ones after death, this right includes taking the body home from the hospital, nursing facility or coroner providing you have the necessary permits in your possession.  It is advisable let the facility know of your plans and make arrangements for transport of the body ahead of time.

COST

The education, support and ministerial services provided by our team of Sacred Crossing Guides ranges from $500 to $2500 depending on the needs of each family and the length of the vigil.

GUIDE

1. A home funeral guide conducts in-home consultation to asses a family’s needs and help them make preparations

2. Upon notification of death the Home Funeral Guide arrives at the home – usually within 3 hours

3. The Home Funeral Guide educates and supports the family with bathing and dressing the body

4. The body is laid ‘in honor’ in the home on a bed or table

5. The body is preserved with dry-ice during the 1 to 3-day vigil

6. The cremation casket or pine box is delivered to the home and decorated by friends and family

7. The family completes all necessary paperwork needed for the disposition and death certificate

8. The funeral service is held in the home or taken to a church. chapel or other venue depending on the family’s wishes

9. The body is transported to the cemetery or crematory for final disposition

REMAINS

The body is carefully washed, dressed (or shrouded) and preserved with dry ice to prevent decomposition.

Caring for an in-tact body naturally, at home, using gentle, non-invasive techniques, poses far less potential hazards than one that is compromised and chemically treated at a funeral home.

DEATH DOULA

A death midwife is one who assists an individual and their family through the transition of death, just as a birth midwife assists the baby and the mother through the transition of birth.

“A Death Midwife shepherds individuals toward a conscious dying experience; guides loved ones in after-death care of the body and empowers families to create personal and deeply meaningful funerals at home.”

VIRGIL

A vigil or ‘wake’ is a period of time, usually 1 -3 days, when the body is laying in honor while family and friends visit to pay their respects and say goodbye. The funeral service most often takes place in the home on the 3rd day of the vigil before the body is taken to the crematory or cemetery.

Many religions cite the importance of the three days following death. This is a period of time where the soul / spirit /consciousness of the individual is getting accustomed to being without the physical form. Family members often experience the presence of a loved one close by during the days immediately following transition and sensitives often ‘see’ the luminous body hovering close to the physical body. Whatever one’s personal beliefs, lovingly caring for a body and holding it in a sacred space allows family and friends time to accept the loss, say goodbye and begin to face their own lives with a deepened sense of gratitude and peace.