① KEEP CALM (ish) AND

(DON’T) CARRY on

Take time to grieve and share your experience. Grief journeys are all different.

saudade

[soh-da-duh]

noun

a deep emotional state of melancholic longing for a person or thing that is absent.

② six needs of

mourning

grief/ mourning / bereavement: WHAT’S THE DIFF
grief is what we think and feel inside. Mourning is the outward expression of our grief. bereavement is the period after a loss during which you experience grief.

keening

[ˈkēniNG]

noun

the action of wailing in grief for a dead person.

③ Kubler-Ross's

5 Stages of Grief

Stage 1 - Denial

Denial is the first of the five stages of grief. In this stage, the person operates in a state of shock and disbelief. "How could this happen to me?" and "I feel fine!" are common. We may fully understand the reality of the situation, but we're not ready to process it yet, and the denial period gives us a chance to take on only as much as we can handle at one time.

Stage 2 - Anger
Once denial begins to fade, anger commonly comes on its heels. Statements like "Why me?", "I don't deserve this!", and "It's not fair!" are very common, whether they're vocalized or internalized. It's a normal, necessary stage of the healing process, and it's often more acute when a death is a surprise, or seems unfairly quick. People tend to experience spiritual crises during this stage, as well, questioning God or other beings, depending on their beliefs.

Stage 3 - Bargaining
This stage hinges on the hope that a person can somehow delay or postpone a death by changing beliefs or behaviors. Usually, this negotiation occurs with a higher power, and sounds something like "If I just do XX differently, can you please give her more time?" This is also a stage where people can get mired in "If only" thoughts (e.g., "If only we'd found the tumor sooner..." or "If he'd just listened to me and gone to the doctor..." or "If I hadn't let her drive in this weather..."

Stage 4 - Depression
Depression is a very natural, normal response to experiencing loss, and in your work, you will see this at play both in your clients and in the people in their support networks. It's a necessary--sometimes long--step for most people, and when they are experiencing depression, it can feel endless and incredibly hopeless.

Stage 5 - Acceptance
Acceptance is often confused with being “all right with” what is or has happened. However, many people never feel all right with the situation. This stage is more about accepting a new reality and processing what that will mean for the person, his/her family, and anyone else involved.

④ DO ABOVE ⇧

CHECK OUT BELOW ⇩

RESOURCES

MOURNING RITUALS

JEWISH

KIDS AND GRIEF

CENTER FOR LOSS

Hope in grief

children’s grief awareness day

grief camps for kids

life support uk
modern website to navigate death

SUPPORT

MODERN LOSS

WHAT’S YOUR GRIEF

KARUNA CARDS
Cards to inspire processing of grief

hospice foundation
support info for workplace grief, grief and kids, + caregiving.

GRIEF SURVIVAL KIT AND TIPS

book list

for kids + teens

compassion bookstore
just go here. it has everything you need.

dead people suck by laurie kilmartin
a guide for survivors of the newly departed

the hero of this book by elizabeth mccracken
a searing examination of grief and renewal, and of a deeply felt relationship between a child and her parents.

you are not alone by cariad lloyd
grief will change and grow and diminish and reappear, it will be with you forever, you will learn to build a life around it, to carry it. It will be ok, you will be ok. Somehow, you will be. You are not alone